I’ve been reluctant for many years to write online about politics. I used to say that I was too conservative for my liberal friends and too liberal for my conservative friends. With all the polarization of politics in the last twenty years or so, I really didn’t – and still don’t – want to alienate myself from the few friends I have because of politics. I have always believed there’s more to a person’s character than politics and judging someone over who they voted for was ridiculous. Despite the degree of polarization today, I stand by this.
I’ve told this story many times and if you’ve heard it, I apologize for the repetition. Probably twenty years or so, I was sitting at the bar at the Fort Belvoir Golf club with a colleague. We got to talking about politics and had a lively – but friendly discussion whilst consuming an adult beverage of some sort. Probably beer.
When we got around to talking about universal health care, of course, as a card-carrying Republican at the time, I repeated the talking point, “Why should I have to pay for someone else’s health care when I worked to make sure that I had enough for me and my family?” I was declaring myself a member of the “I got mine and the hell with anyone else!” club.
He said “Look, if I can give up a few bucks so some people can have health care, why wouldn’t I do that?”
Why, indeed?
Perhaps I inferred something that wasn’t intended, but I suddenly realized that the position I was advocating was a very selfish position. The realization that I was selfish hit me like a ton of bricks, and I didn’t like how that felt.
When I was a little kid, my mom scolded me for being selfish and I was embarrassed and felt as though I let her and the family down. I developed an unhealthy need to be not selfish, which followed me into adulthood. Somehow, though, that didn’t follow me into political discussions. My colleague’s words and the inference that I was being selfish embarrassed me just as it had when I was little. That’s when everything started to change for me.
I didn’t want to be that selfish person.
I started really listening to the talk radio hosts that I listened to – all conservatives, I might add – and learned that a lot of what I was hearing was hyperbole, selfish, and heartless. And then I stopped listening.
Over the ensuing years, and the changes in the Republican party starting with the Tea Party, I changed my attitude about politics. I still believed in small government, a strong military, fiscal responsibility, and personal responsibility as I do today. These are traditionally Republican values, but so much has changed with the Republican party that they seem to have fallen by the wayside in favor of selfish, heartless values.
In rewatching “The Newsroom” on Max, I encountered a scene in which Will McAvoy, the lead character and anchor of a fictional cable news broadcast said this:
“No, I call myself a Republican ’cause I am one. I believe in market solutions, and I believe in common sense realities and the necessity to defend ourselves against a dangerous world and that’s about it. Problem is now I have to be homophobic. I have to count the number of times people go to church. I have to deny facts and think scientific research is a long con. I have to think poor people are getting a sweet ride. And I have to have such a stunning inferiority complex that I fear education and intellect in the 21st century. But most of all, the biggest new requirement, really the only requirement, is that I have to hate Democrats.”
I found truth in those words.
To be clear, I don’t hate Democrats, and I don’t hate Republicans. Let’s get that straight right now. I don’t hate anyone who treats me with the dignity and respect that we all deserve. I don’t choose my friends based on who they voted for in the last election. Your politics don’t matter to me as long as you’re not being a dick to me or anyone else.
Unfortunately, I see nothing but dick moves coming from the current administration. When did Americans start hating so much. We used to be a compassionate nation. When did we become so selfish and heartless?
I am all for legal immigration, but I am not so selfish and as to upend and ruin the lives of millions of people willy nilly and deport them to countries that are genuinely dangerous and with which they have no relationship. Yes, I would have preferred that they all enter the U.S. legally, but they are here now, and most are paying taxes and contributing to society. Why are we being so selfish and heartless?
Free trade is now dead and the only people who will be hurt by this are the poor and middle classes. They will pay more for goods because of new tariffs that were applied willy nilly. When did we become so selfish and heartless as to make living more difficult for the poorest of us?
And what of the cleansing of history that is coming from the elimination of DEI provisions that encouraged Americans to embrace diversity instead of abhorring it. When did we become so selfish and heartless and afraid of our history as a nation to erase American history in favor of one man’s vision of an exclusively white America?
According to CNN on July 5, 2025, the latest budget legislation signed into law on July 4, 2025, creates new spending and declines in tax revenue.
“…the measure cuts $1 trillion from Medicaid, along with cuts to food assistance. But it will still, according to an analysis from the Congressional Budget Office, add $3.3 trillion to the federal deficit, which does not include the cost of servicing the debt.”
This will disproportionally affect those who can’t afford health insurance because of poverty and the disabled who rely on Medicaid to survive. A compassionate nation would not allow its most vulnerable population to have life-saving benefits to be terminated.
And since this was first written, the “big beautiful bill” is now law.
And now Iran has been provoked. I can’t imagine Iran taking their lumps and moving on. I believe it’s more likely that Iran will bide their time, wait for the U.S. to become complacent again, and then retaliate. I could well be wrong about this. However, the risk of retaliation is real. Had we not destroyed their nuclear capability, the risk of retaliation would be much lower. And we will never have real knowledge of the extent of the damage until neutral inspectors are allowed to do their jobs. It is possible that the strikes did not obliterate Iran’s nuclear ambitions. But I know they sure pissed them off.
And what of the separation of powers? Why isn’t the entirety of Congress screaming about the Executive Branch usurping the Constitutionally assigned powers of the Legislative branch of government? Why are they permitting the Executive Branch to rule by executive order? Congress is collectively too afraid of what Trump can do to their chances for reelection to protect Congress’s powers. They are collectively ignoring the checks and balances defined in our Constitution in favor of their reelection. And I see their power slipping away more and more every day. One day, once the Executive Branch consolidates all the power that they can, Congress will serve no real purpose.
I oppose Mr. Trump and those in his administration who appear to be doing intentional damage to both the reputation of the United States of America as a haven for the oppressed, and to the system of government that has made our nation and our economy the envy of the rest of the world. They have transformed nearly overnight the U.S. into a heartless and selfish nation. This is not the kind of nation we have been and not what I believe we ought to be. Just like that moment that I decided that I didn’t want to be that selfish and heartless person, I don’t want the U.S. to be a selfish and heartless nation.
I encourage all Americans to resist the reshaping of America from the land of the free and home of the brave, into a nation solely concerned with fiscally running itself right into the ground. Our nation has always used our abundant resources to be globally compassionate and selfless to those less fortunate. We are among the wealthiest nations in the world. We should act like it through domestic and foreign aid programs.
I encourage all Americans to continue to recognize that diversity is a strength not a liability and to resist those who want to change history.
I encourage all Americans to support the notion that the rule of law is paramount to the American experience and Americans must resist the migration away from the rule of law to the rule of one man. America is a representative republic and not a dictatorship.
At least it wasn’t. But now, I am not so sure.
Resist.